Nothing creates fear monsters faster than when we constantly go over and over a problem focusing only on the anxiety it creates to the exclusion of looking for potential solutions. Fear is healthy and keeps us safe. But when it goes beyond its intended purpose, it soon takes over our lives.
What are you saying to yourself about your situation?
While sharing with friends can release some of the tension we feel and can help us gain a new perspective, it is what we say to ourselves that is critical.
We are often unaware of that continual stream of conversation we have with ourselves 24-7. If that self-talk remains focused only on the fear and anxiety we feel, we will not find the solutions we need.
Our brains respond to the thoughts that stream through our consciousness. If you constantly repeat to yourself how bad things are, how little control you have, how helpless you are, how others are so much better off than you, etc. etc. etc. you will begin to respond accordingly. If you think there is no use in trying, you will have little creative energy to move forward.
Our thinking can produce a self-fulfilling prophecy. Negative beliefs soon become a reality. We can perpetuate the problem or we can find ways to resolve it. We can give up or we can generate determination and an “I can do it” attitude and mindset.
Tell yourself, no matter how hard it is, giving up is not an option. Focus on the things you can do, not what you can’t do.Read More >