Life is a dance – a process that requires flexibility while learning how to change position and location while maintaining our balance. Life is movement – we are going somewhere. It is never static – never the same – but constantly changing and evolving. As we learn the music of life, we can adjust our movements and take charge of change and and our responses to it or simply be swept along with no direction or purpose.
Every day we have the opportunity to start fresh, letting go of what isn’t working, focusing instead on new possibilities. Every day we have the opportunity to reach out to God and to others. Every day we can begin anew with grace, forgiveness and love.
Years ago I was part of a team developing a class for people in chronic illness and pain. The following was one of the handouts developed at that time. I share it with you now as it speaks to life in general.
LETTING GO – TAKING CONTROL
“If there is a meaning in life at all, then there must be a meaning in suffering. Suffering is an ineradicable part of life, even as fate and death. Without suffering and death human life cannot be complete.” Victor Frankl
To experience freedom and create meaning in our lives, we must “let go” of the past while taking “control” of the present and future.
Letting go means
• Removing my masks – becoming honest with myself and others
• I can laugh – I can cry – I can feel my pain – and it’s okay
• Transcending my fears: facing death, disability, hardships, disappointments
• Grieving my losses
• Asking for and receiving help
• Acceptance of those things I cannot change
Taking control means
• Discovering the real, genuine, authentic me
• Spending time with myself
• Focusing on what I can do – not what I can’t do
• Choosing hope over despair – the positive versus the negative
• Soaring like an eagle
• Believing I have choices and that I am making those choices every day
• Enjoying each step forward – there is no step too small or too large
• Looking for and finding opportunities within every situation
Problems, disappointment, life situations CANNOT keep you from
• Exploring new options
• Setting new priorities and goals
• Living life to the fullest
• Developing a better quality of life
Problems, tragedies, and losses CAN help you
• Discover great, hidden strengths and determination
• Create new and exciting meaning for our life
• Transform “who you were” to “who you are becoming”
• Develop awareness and appreciation for you and your world
©Marlene Anderson, MA, LMHC, NCC