To seek revenge is to want retribution – we want people to pay for what they did. When the injustice is repeated over and over again in our mind, the desire for revenge increases.
The flames of anger, hurt, and betrayal continue to be stoked until we have a raging furnace inside us. We have become a victim.
Resentment and revenge are bitter pills you continue to chew without relief. In today’s blog post and podcast episode, I’m sharing a story story titled, “The Unwanted Package.” The story beautifully illustrates why it’s so important to set down that heavy burden of resentment.
It can help us survive, can motivate us to take action and make appropriate and necessary changes. It protects us when life threatens us psychologically or physically.
But when anger becomes habitual, it can be harmful.
When used repeatedly as our typical response to things that irritate us, we end up with an anger problem that can be catastrophic over time. That’s because, when we’re angry, we tend to be reactive. We no longer think rationally.
In this article (with accompanying audio), I’ll help you understand anger and will suggest practical things you can do if you are feeling constantly angry.
It triggers our fight/flight response system to meet any threat by fleeing, fighting, or remaining frozen in place.
Fear can be our friend, or it can be our enemy. It can prepare, instruct, and keep us safe; or it can become a huge threatening shadow that keeps us locked in doubt, worry, uncertainty, and helplessness.
In this article (with accompanying audio), I’ll help you recognize the differences between unhealthy fear and healthy fear, and I’ll share preventive measures you can put in place when you sense the fear dragon breathing down your back.
Imagine not being able to experience the joy of holding your baby, or that feeling of confidence over a job well done, or the excitement you feel cheering your favorite sports team. Life would be dull and robotic if it weren’t for those wonderful moments of joy and excitement and contentment.
Every day we experience emotions enabling us to enjoy life.
Emotions help us respond appropriately. They warn us of danger as well as bringing us incredible joy. But it’s not situations themselves that create our responses so much as it is our interpretations of what is happening.
I invite you to try the exercise in today’s post. It will help you identify patterns of emotional thinking and responses that might be working against you.
After surgery to fuse my lower back, I was required to wear a brace for three months. During that time, I walked every day, up to two miles a day to help heal and strengthen my back.
We understand that it takes time to recover from broken bones or surgeries, and that the healing process requires physical therapy.
It takes time to recover from emotional and spiritual wounds, as well. Making that transition to a new life is never straightforward – there will be ups and downs and sometimes detours. Click to continue reading, or to listen to to the audio recording of this post.
Life is a dance – a process – that requires flexibility while we learn how to change position and location and still maintain our balance.
Life is movement – we are going somewhere.
Life is never static – never the same but constantly changing and evolving. We can learn the music of life; we can adjust our movements and take charge of change and our responses to it or simply be swept along with no direction or purpose.
To experience freedom and create meaning in our lives, we must let go of the past while taking control of the present and future. In this blog post and podcast episode, I’ll help you understand what “letting go” and “taking control” mean, and how problems, tragedies, and losses can help you.
We leave something of ourselves behind in our endings as we reach forward to a new beginning.
When endings are not adequately completed, it will be difficult to make a successful new beginning. We no longer feel pleasure or satisfaction in the things we used to do, and we get discouraged and disheartened with this uncertainty. We wonder, Can I have a meaningful life again?
When leaving one world to move towards another, we go through a transitional period. In this article and podcast episode, I’ll show you six ways to effectively use reflection during a transition.