When transitioning from a loss, you need to build a bridge from your ending to a new beginning.
You can’t go back and glue the pieces of your life together again. But you can pick up the pieces you need and find a new way to connect them.
In this week’s blog post and podcast episode, you’ll get tips for building that bridge to a new beginning.
I’ll show you how to choose responses that move you forward, and I’ll ask five questions that will help you gain a better understanding of yourself, your abilities and possibilities.
We stopped trying to live the perfect life.
Would we become real?
We stopped pretending we had it all together.
Would we fall apart, or would we finally recognize our need for help?
We saw the Ten Commandments as a gift from a loving Father trying to teach us how to live non-destructive lives.
Would we use more of them?
Life is a question and how we live it is our answer.
What is character and why does it matter?
As we go through life, we are putting in place those qualities that identify and define who we are. It is a combination of things such as generosity, loyalty, devotion, etc., but even more important, our moral and ethical standards and principles.
- Am I honest? Can you trust my word?
- Do I live my beliefs and values?
- Do others know I have integrity and will stand up for what is right, even at a personal cost?
My principles, values, morals and ethics not only define who I am but help me make sound decisions that maximize my talents in positive and constructive ways.
What would life be like if we couldn’t experience the love and joy of holding our newborn baby, or that deep satisfaction when we achieved something we worked hard for?
And who can forget that exhilarating feeling of cheering for our favorite sports team or the pride you feel when your kids work hard at doing something well?
Life would be dull, boring and depressing if we couldn’t experience the wonderful panorama of emotions available to us. Even when we are sad and disappointed, we know that it is temporary, and we will return to those good moments.
But life can be dark and threatening – bleak and depressing if we remain in the constellation of thoughts that hold us hostage to fear, discouragement, anxiety or anger. After awhile we lose sight of the good feelings and good times.