We can’t think of options and alternatives when we’re under high levels of stress – in fact, we can’t think at all.
Only when some of that stress has been reduced can we put on our thinking cap, challenge our fears, and look for ways to go beyond survival.
Ruminating over your problems may be the only way you know how to cope with stress at first. You may continue to argue your point of view… “You just don’t understand. I followed instructions. I took classes to learn. All I hear from everyone, is why don’t you do this or that, as if I haven’t already tried that and more.”