In Step 5 you reviewed the different areas of your life and wrote down the concerns and changes you wanted to make.
Look over your list. Which area will you work on first?
When you choose a goal to work on, ask yourself whether you have all the information you need to activate that goal.
- Have you defined specifically what you want the outcome to be and why it is important to you?
- What other goal(s) may be linked to the one you have chosen? For example, if your goal is to dimmish conflict, an associated one might be to build a better relationship. Also involved is learning how to communicate effectively.
Once you have used goal setting you will never live without it. It simply becomes a way of life. By writing down the steps in a formalized fashion in the beginning, it soon becomes second nature.
Here are some things to remember:
Does your goal adequately reflect what you want to accomplish?
For example, you might want to become financially secure and choose an occupation that has the best potential for making lots of money. However, if your goal doesn’t reflect who you are, your personality, your talents, passions, etc., your goal will soon create high stress and great dissatisfaction. If you like working with people but choose to be an accountant who works with books, the conflict will soon deplete you.
Sometimes we have to let go of an old reality to create a new one.
In my previous post, I introduced you to the 9 basic components of a goal. In this post, I’ll give you a case study of a goal I made and the process I went through.
My goal statement
My goal statement reflected the need to sell my home and find a new residence. I reviewed obstacles and outlined a plan of action. As I put my plan into motion, my on-going evaluation revealed a need to modify my original goal statement, which was:
I will put my home up for sale and find a new residence within my current community to live in.
The obstacles involved finding another home I could afford, upgrading one that was for sale, etc. Listing any obvious obstacles required getting enough information to formulate a workable plan of action.
Before we start putting together a formal goal plan, let’s review a few important things:
- Don’t focus on limitations – fear of the unknown can color our belief in ourselves.
- Give yourself permission to make mistakes – do your homework ahead of time.
- Don’t get discouraged if, in the process of putting your goal plan together, you discover the goal isn’t exactly right. Make corrections as needed.
- If the goal isn’t right for you it is okay to let go of it, re-define it or re-work it. We are not only learning about goal setting but a lot about ourselves in this process.
- Don’t abandon your goals because you believe you won’t be able to complete them. It’s okay to put some goals on hold while we meet current commitments or circumstances.