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Quiet Your Internal Critic and Develop Self-Esteem

Posted by Marlene Anderson, MA, LMHC, NCC

Quiet Your Internal Critic and Develop Self-Esteem

When our “inner voice” or self-talk berates everything we do, we will struggle to believe in ourselves. Our fears of doing everything wrong overshadow anything we might do right.

A low self-esteem will be reflected in our relationships, marriage, social circles, and work, because everything is colored by that negativity. And it can breed jealousy and resentment, as well as a simmering dislike for others.

Today on my blog and podcast, I’ll give you tools to help you talk back to your Internal Critic so you can silence it and begin to hear affirmations of your self-worth.

Changing Your Internal Dialog from “I Can’t” to “I Can”: Practice Positive Affirmations

Posted by Marlene Anderson, MA, LMHC, NCC

What do you say to yourself when the world drops out from under you?

When the doctor says you have cancer, or your child has become a drug addict, or when a beloved spouse, parent, or grandparent is on hospice?

Every day, in some way, we are responding to the tragedies, calamities, and heartbreaks we experience. We seldom think about what we are saying to ourselves at such times and how it can impact our ability to meet those challenges.

Words have incredible power, especially when they devalue who we are, our worth, esteem and abilities.

Today on my podcast and blog, you’ll learn how to replace negative self-talk with positive affirmations – a process that will guide you as you create new goals.

How to Replace Critical Self-Talk with Affirmations

Posted by Marlene Anderson, MA, LMHC, NCC

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Going through tough times can be discouraging. You find yourself becoming more and more critical of yourself and others. While each day offers an opportunity to work towards new solutions, our self-talk can become a major stumbling block.

When negative thoughts and self-imposed judgments are constantly repeated, they become an ongoing internal dialogue, like a recording set on auto-replay.

This recording only contains our failures, the times we have been disappointed or rejected. I call this on-going recording your “internal critic.”

That Unexpected Visitor – Your Internal Critic

Posted by Marlene Anderson, MA, LMHC, NCC

That Unexpected Visitor – Your Internal Critic | FocusWithMarlene.com

Life is going great when bam! The earth quakes and a landslide comes tumbling down, burying everything you had worked so hard on.

And without warning, as if on some internal cue, you are assaulted with doubts and misgivings. Buried under an avalanche, hidden from view, out of sight are all the things you have accomplished. You no longer consider and appreciate all the things you have done and are capable of doing. The rubble is not just life happening, it is a reminder of the bad choices you made and how inadequate you are.

In the blink of an eye, an old and unwanted visitor has just returned.

The voice is loud and clear. “You just won’t learn – you will never amount to anything, no matter how hard you try.”