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Developing Your Personal Plan of Action

Posted by Marlene Anderson, MA, LMHC, NCC

This month, we have reflected on and became aware of our habits, both habits of thinking and habits of behaviors.

Go back and review the answers you gave to the questions asked in each of the four previous blog posts:

Which habits grabbed your attention?

Which current habits are helpful, and which are not?

Look at your list of potential habit changes and prioritize them. Which one would benefit you the most?

Any habit change requires starting small. Continue reading…

4 Ways Habits Are Created

Posted by Marlene Anderson, MA, LMHC, NCC

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Change is ongoing throughout life. We will experience many ups and downs, bumps and bruises, most of which we take for granted.

It is when we encounter major upheavals and setbacks that it takes longer to get back on our feet. At those times we have the opportunity to reflect on what is working and what is not and explore new ways to improve our life and make our goals happen.

This month, we have been reflecting on how current habits can either help or hinder us.

In How to Replace Bad Habits With Beneficial Habits, you made a list of how you spent your days and the habits that either got things done or got in the way.

In Changing Negative Habits Formed During Childhood, you explored the messages you heard as a kid that resulted in many of the habits you have today.

In How to Replace Critical Self-Talk with Affirmations, you learned about your internal critic and how to replace it with critical thinking.

This week, I want to summarize how habits are created. Behaviors repeated over and over eventually become a habit. Continue reading…

Changing Negative Habits Formed During Childhood

Posted by Marlene Anderson, MA, LMHC, NCC

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Hard times bring up old memories; unpleasant or discouraging flashbacks from our youth.

There may have been traumatic times earlier in your adult life. Presumptions about who you believed you could become have been shaken. You might hear your parent admonishing you for not getting better grades or fighting with your siblings, unfair comparisons with a sister or brother or scolding for disobeying.

At such moments, we question ourselves.

Am I really that incompetent? Those old messages can erode any confidence you are gaining.

How to Replace Bad Habits With Beneficial Habits

Posted by Marlene Anderson, MA, LMHC, NCC

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Habits affect every aspect of our lives; from the moment we get up in the morning to the time we go to bed. We usually think of habits as our daily routines, so we don’t think much about them.

But our habits involve much more than our usual routines. How we think, perceive, and respond to the world become habits.

In this article, we’ll examine how our typical ways of responding can become habits without us even realizing it.

I’ll give you tips for recognizing non-productive habits, and strategies for replacing them with beneficial habits that will help you become more positive and productive.

7 Things You Need to Know About Habits

Posted by Marlene Anderson, MA, LMHC, NCC

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There are many ways you can design a new road map. But before you do, you need to know what you are doing now.

What habits do you have in place that help you use your time effectively?
What habits are time wasters?

Once you become aware of your habits, you can put in place those that benefit you the most. Often it only takes some small habit changes to result in huge benefits.

Today on my blog and podcast, I’ll show you 7 things to remember about habits.

How to Replace Habits That Aren’t Working for You

Posted by Marlene Anderson, MA, LMHC, NCC

How to Replace Habits That Aren’t Working for You | FocusWithMarlene.com

Taking charge of your time and your life requires not only being aware of your current habits, but knowing how to replace habits that aren’t working. Taking charge means putting in place a new time management schedule that meets your purposes and goals.

It will require self-regulation and self-discipline. The word “discipline” often triggers a negative response based on our childhood interpretation of discipline. But now it is a positive tool allowing you to do the things you want to do.

Self-regulation doesn’t mean every moment is regulated in some way or that we lead a regimented life with no pleasure or down times. In fact, when you put a time management plan in place, you will find you have more time than you did before. You are able to schedule in fun and pleasant times as well as the accomplishment of tasks and chores.